"Wake Me Up When September Ends"
September marked the return to school for my children. They were excited to return to school to see their friends, new teachers, and play on the playground. Euphoria radiated from the school. The teachers and administrators were bursting with enthusiasm. For some reason during this anomalous season, the sun is always shining, neighborhoods are impeccably manicured, the smell of fresh bread is everywhere, and no one is tired!
But wait! What happens in when September ends (cue Green Day)? The bluster begins to fade … Crocodile tears, temper tantrum, cries of “I want mommy“ when mommy’s right in front of you, and, my least favorite, “I want to wear my pajamas.” This is my life now.
My sweet son, Charlie, hates to wear anything but pajamas or sweatpants. Underwear? Forget about it. Jackets? Nope! Shirts with buttons? Thank you, next.
The nadir occurred last Wednesday. School picture day. Not “just a photo.” A time capsule of childhood that will be hanging on the walls of our home for the next 40 years.
Wednesday morning was a 45 minute slugfest (please note: no slugging or physical altercation actually occurred). We unsuccessfully tried all our usual tactics: over the top enthusiasm, taking away dessert or TV, wearing shirts with buttons ourselves. Finally, a compromise was struck. Charlie put on a fresh-pressed polo and slacks with the promise he could change into a grungy t-shirt and sweatpants after pictures.
Parenting… The infinite game? What is an infinite game. It is one that has no end or finish. It is perpetual. And, the rules may always be changing.
In parenting, our basic objectives are to maintain a working and loving relationship, demonstrate appropriate behavior, and constantly discuss core values daily. Hopefully, as a result, this strategy yields kind, loving gentleman.
What else is an infinite game? Our health! How we play this game in our 30's through 60's will dictate quality of life in our 70's, 80's and beyond.
This game can be simple but not easy to play. On paper, we all know what we need to do: exercise (cardio and strength), eat well, sleep efficiently and tend to our emotional well-being. Life can be messy, changing, and unbalanced. I believe, as wellness focused physical therapists, we are in an ideal position to facilitate function, enhance performance, and promote wellness through the life span.
Tomorrow can’t always wait. Planning for future you beings now! We can help!
Joe